Happy New Year everyone!
So, what resolutions have you made for 2011? Maybe you intend to buck up the courage to ask your boss for that raise/promotion, maybe you intend to search for a new job altogether, perhaps you are going to try a new hobby/past time, are you going to eat better? Exercise more? Lose 5 kg? Date more? Date less? Reclaim your freedom and end a dead-end relationship?
I have no idea what my resolutions are for 2011. One thing I have learned from the past couple of years is that- with the exception of a few select circumstances- control is largely an illusion, and life has a funny way of taking the exact turn you were trying to avoid or did not plan for.
For the first time in a few years I actually did see in the new year, which in itself was unplanned. What I had planned was a quiet night in, a healthy dinner and an early bedtime, followed by an early run on NY’s day, a swim at the beach and breakfast at a beach cafe with one of my girlfriends. What happened was a telephone call on Friday afternoon from an ex work colleague asking me what I was up to, followed by an invitation to catch up for a drink at the local watering hole.
The then planned drink did not eventuate either, as said watering hole was not accepting last-minute attendees. So, instead we traipsed back home to open a bottle of wine and proceed to chat the night away. The entire night. Anyone would think I had just come out of a years vow of silence or something- I just could not shut up. Even our attempt at watching a movie in peace failed dismally. And the bubbly was so awful my glass remained untouched after the first sip. Thus it was that at 4:30am I glanced out the window to discover daylight and finally there was silence, as I paused my yabbering mid-sentence to watch the sunrise.
Possibly the best new years eve I had ever had, and it didn’t involve any of my plans coming to fruition or even a kiss at midnight! What it did involve was the unexpected company of a great friend (a friend I have in fact been neglecting in recent times), some ‘interesting’ wine, a feeling of anticipation of the year to come, and a resolution to work on being healthy and happy with myself and to resolve to be less rigid in my thinking. To accept that I cannot control everything and perhaps that in itself, is not so terrible.